One author is drawing a connection between oral health and overall health. Thanks to guest author Dr. Susan Maples DDS, for some great oral hygiene tips. A top eight innovator in U.S. dentistry and author of Blabber Mouth: 77 Secrets Only Your Mouth Can Tell You To Live a Healthier, Happier, Sexier Life, Maples says, “Children must take care of their teeth and gums not just for the oral health benefits, but to keep the rest of their bodies healthy as well. Good habits are formed at an early age. But when it comes to the oral health of children, some parents don’t take it seriously. ”
Dr. Maples’ tips for parents:
– Lay off the fruit juice: Parents often think fruit juice is a healthy choice for a drink. Juice is loaded with sugar which feeds cavity bags. When consumed regularly, it can predispose children to type 2 diabetes. Water is the best option for beverages. Drink less fruit juice and eat more fruit.
– Only use soft bristle toothbrushes: When it comes to how hard the bristles of the toothbrush should be, the only choice is not hard at all. Make sure you always choose soft bristles to avoid traumatizing your gums. Scrubbing with a medium or hard bristle brush can make the gums recede from the teeth and it’s irreversible except through surgery.
– Parents need to supervise brushing and flossing: Letting children take care of their own teeth without being shown the proper techniques can be disastrous. Just as you would help your children tie their shoes, help them brush and floss. Kids need supervision to safely and effectively remove plaque until they prove they know what they’re doing. Make sure they’re getting those hard to reach spots in the back of the mouth.
– Don’t avoid or neglect preventive dental visits: Cavities between teeth can only be detected with x-rays. Your children need to see the dentist twice a year. Make appointments at times you’ll remember like on their birthday, at the beginning of the new year or at the start of the school year.
– Cavities in children need to be treated: Some parents think that cavities in baby teeth can be ignored because these teeth will fall out eventually. You can’t ignore cavities even in baby teeth. They must be treated or they can create dangerous infections and abscesses.
– Some bleeding is expected: Blood isn’t always the sign of something bad. If your child’s gums bleed when they brush or floss, don’t stop their routine. Bleeding is a natural response when you clean inflamed gums and isn’t from brushing or flossing too hard. Keep at it to reduce the bacteria and avoid periodontal disease. The bleeding will subside as the bacteria load is cleaned up. If bleeding persists, see your dentist.
– Fluoride is a must: Fluoride promotes healthy and strong teeth for a lifetime. Both fluoride in the water supply (or a prescription supplement) and topical fluoride in the dental office and in toothpaste are critically important to help avoid cavities. Make sure and use an age appropriate toothpaste because until a child can spit, he shouldn’t chance swallowing fluoride.
Who doesn’t love comfort food? And imagine a collection of yummy, comfort food recipes that show you how to indulge in 100-calorie increments?
I recently got a chance to preview a new cookbook that does just that. The Perfect Portion Cookbook has 150 recipes, each outlined in 100-calorie portions. Here are some that really caught my eye as looking delicious, interesting, and something that would be helpful to eat in moderation.
First, an Enchilada Bake – this looks like a blanket on a cold day, and we’re having lots of those in D.C.:
And a sweet treat, 100-calorie Brownie Bites…yummm!
Get the kids involved! Here’s a fun way to show kids the process and encourage them to assist. The Better Batter French Toast would be a #MomTastic activity and very family-friendly.
Here’s the “411” on this new cookbook:
It is available for pre-order now on Amazon $29.95 and will be sold on QVC for a limited time with a special pre-order price of $19.95 plus $5 shipping/handling at this link.
Disclosure: A cookbook was provided for review, but the opinions here are all my own!
Wear the Cape™, a brand that gives back and aims to restore the power of kindness and heroic character with cool, inspirational products and its non-profit the kidkind foundation, released some great tips about teaching kids to understand the joy of giving to others.
Wear the Cape’s tips were conceived by the organization’s resident character education expert Philip Brown, PhD, who is a Fellow of the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers University, where he founded and directed the Center for Social and Character Development. With his pointers, Dr. Brown focuses on how we can help our kids understand the joy of giving.
1. Be intentional. Talk to children about giving and charity, how it makes us feel, and what values we are upholding. Whether the heart-to-heart is about giving money or time and energies, research shows that talking with children to help them understand the family and society values associated with giving is important.
2. Think beyond your family. Let children know they are part of a community and global citizenship. Ask who has served your family this past year and could use some recognition. Look at where there are people in need locally, nationally and internationally. Could a neighbor use a helping hand or the local food pantry some extra servers?
3. Involve your kids in decision-making. Include your children in discussions about to whom something should be given, whether it’s a toy, a dollar, a card, the offer of service or a good word. Simple and sweet can open the heart as much as big and fancy. Think of family and then extend outward. Involving kids in the process of selecting charities or persons to whom they want to give goes a long way toward building a generous spirit.
4. Gift outside the box – literally. Consider gifts of experiences rather than just material items. We remember and cherish good times together longer than almost any physical present.
5. Don’t overlook the art of receiving. You can help children build their character by learning how to receive gifts gracefully and with gratitude, which is as important as being a caring giver. Gift occasions are also about receiving. Receiving should be done with an open heart, remembering that the person giving the gift wants to please you and make you feel good.
Wear the Cape had a #betterthanpresents contest over the holidays, and reports that most kids’ talked about family time as something better than presents. For example, helping to take care of a baby brother, going to a baseball game with dad, and having the entire family at a birthday party.
The Concussion movie recently released may raise concerns about head safety in children who play contact sports. We want our children to be active, stay healthy, and enjoy the positive benefits of team sports. While there is a risk in playing any sport, the benefits will likely far outweigh the risks if coached and played with head safety in mind.
Gerry Gioia, PhD, Director of Safe Concussion Outcome, Recovery & Education (SCORE) Program at Children’s National Health System, shares 10 questions parents should ask youth sports coaches to ensure their child’s team is practicing proper head safety to prevent concussion.
And here’s the Concussion movie trailer:
Every 52 minutes in America, someone is killed in a drunk driving crash. And, for every preventable drunk driving death – 10,076 in 2013 alone – exponentially more lives are forever changed by the loss of a parent, child, friend or loved one of these preventable tragedies. This, according to the The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, needs to stop. Take the pledge (I just did, and was the 19,298th person) to not drive drunk, and share with your friends. They also just launched a SaferRide app to assist.
Here are some tips they shared about thinking ahead, and honestly, just thinking…
If you plan on celebrating with alcohol this holiday season, plan on a sober driver.
If you’ve been drinking at all, you should not be behind the wheel. It will cost you—possibly your life.
Keep your holidays happy and safe. When you have any alcohol, let someone sober do the driving. Buzzed Driving Is Drunk Driving.
For more information, visit www.trafficsafetymarketing.gov.
One of my favorite events each year, PEP’s Noted Author Series, is a great combination of education, entertainment, and parenting community at its best. This year’s duo of speakers promises to be an amazing line-up of tips and ideas you can bring home to your own families. Events are filling fast for November 19-20 in the DC/MD/VA area, so grab your seats, and get ready for some #MomTastic information. Full disclosure, I’m a volunteer Board Member at PEP, and I’m a huge believer as you know in parenting education and collaboration.
Here are some excerpts from interviews each speaker had with Katherine Reynolds Lewis that I hope you’ll find useful.
Letting Go of Your Tween or Teen
By Katherine Reynolds Lewis
Michael J. Bradley is a practicing adolescent psychologist and award-winning author of Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind. He shared some insights with Katherine Reynolds Lewis about how parents can cope with the tumultuous experience of raising an adolescent…
Parents talk about something called teen rebellion. Most of us believe there’s no such thing, any more than there is neighbor rebellion. Your next door neighbor may disagree with you about politics and house color and music. I don’t think you say they’re being disrespectful. We’re different, but we can live together. That’s the new configuration.
Adolescent brains are works in progress. The last part that gets wired in is the most difficult part – judgment, mediating emotion, good long-term decisions. They wire all the passion stuff first – the sex, popularity, instant gratification – and the last thing that gets wired in is the brakes. It’s a really scary ride for a period of time.
Parents have to make a decision early on about what their mission is. Most parents decide their mission is to control their child. We advocate that your real mission should be to teach your child to control himself. It involves using respect-based techniques where you try to help your child think through things and learn, so the child can one day sort those things out on her own.
A Less-Is-More Approach to Parenting
By Katherine Reynolds Lewis
Vicki Hoefle is a parent educator and author of The Straight Talk on Parenting: A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up and Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids Here are some of her insights she shared with Katherine Reynolds Lewis about her five-step plan to becoming an effective, engaged parent of kids who solve their own problems.
Parents are under a lot of pressure in life in general, outside of their role as parents. There’s a lot of pressure to perform, to succeed, to get ahead, and that filters into their parenting. Then parenting becomes another vehicle for that stress-induced performance anxiety. That wears us down.
What if you took one step to the right and a half step back so your kids could see the world they’re being asked to navigate? You can be involved but you’re just far enough away that the child can develop their own assessment skills, the difference between good and bad choices, learn how to overcome frustration, how to make amends, to reach out, to take a healthy risk. You would be close enough to watch this and offer a little commentary, when asked, so you find that balance between being involved and taking over.
Parents have a sense that there’s a way to create more balance in the family. Then it’s about introducing them to these five foundational pieces:
This week’s #MomtasticFind is a new product that has a simple but really important mission: to rescue, elevate, and improve the family dinner hour. After reviewing some of their pieces, I wanted to share a great quote from their piece about teamwork, because I think it’s most relevant to a successful family unit (and getting the dishes done…). “When we work together, we can accomplish so much more…Teamwork requires good listening skills and cooperation among all members of the group.”
Here’s a synopsis from their press release…
At a time when electronic and digital passion monopolizes our children’s time and lives, Kimball Companies found a new, easy and fun way for families to connect. Family Table Time was designed by Neal and Jill Kimball to help engage families with very meaningful conversations while creating unforgettable memories. It promotes positive behaviors in parents and children to cook, eat, talk, connect, engage, read, learn and move together as a family. The Kimballs saw the time invested in their jobs, kids’ schools, as well as their after school activities kept them from enjoying this valuable time with their kids. They needed a time that was theirs – a time to teach, share, laugh and celebrate – this special time was going by fast.
Everything changed when the Kimballs realized what was absent from their lives, a simple family dinner – that had been a cornerstone of the family. The “and how was your day?” conversation around the pot roast from their childhood that kept the family together was not happening with their children. Based on “Ready, Set, Connect“, it works like this: 1) Cook and Eat as a Family
2) Talk, Connect, Celebrate and Capture Memories
3) Move, Play, or Exercise Together
Editor’s Note: I love it! We do our very best to make mealtime a “cell free zone,” and I definitely think mealtime is one of the best treasures a family has. The Kimball’s program has everything you need to make it a success including conversation starters, positive reinforcement, and lots of ingredients for success at your own table, and who knows, some of these valuable skills may find their way beyond the table. I previewed some of the downloads, and they’re colorful, easy-to-follow, and applicable to kids of all ages. Their “Talking Torch” is adorable, and gives you a chance to give everyone a voice at the table. Who can argue with that? Check it out here.
Here’s a great news clip on the story behind this story.
Editor’s Note: No compensation was provided to write this post – I’m donating this story as a public service to fellow families and hope I can “pay it forward” so more and more families have better dinner adventures together.
Even though we’re beyond back-to-school season, colder temperatures bring cold & flu season, so it’s timely to talk about healthy routines. Thanks to Dr. Linda Fu, a general pediatrician at Children’s National Health System, who sent me health tips for parents:
1. Make sure your child is up to date on their vaccinations. In recent years, the recommended vaccination schedule has changed due to more disease outbreaks in the U.S. Visit the CDC’s website for a list of required vaccinations by age group. Editor’s Note: Here’s a great “catch-up schedule” if you think you may be missing some.
2. Practice routines including easing your child into a regular sleep schedule. According to new guidelines released by the National Sleep Foundation, school-aged children need between nine and 11 hours of sleep per night. Not having enough sleep can impede the learning process and make it difficult for your child to fully focus on what’s being taught.
3. Make sure your child’s nutrition needs are met. This includes eating breakfast every day and making sure your child has a well-balanced lunch. Eating right will help your child focus and learn better during the school day. It’s also important to pay attention to how your child reacts to different foods. If you notice something that may be a food allergy, take your child to a primary care provider to be tested. Limiting your child’s food options before officially being tested is not recommended, as you may unintentionally be cutting out an important food group. If your child does have an allergy, make sure their teacher and/or school nurse knows and that you are familiar with the school’s policy. Some food allergies are very serious, and it’s crucial to make sure your child’s teacher knows their restrictions so they can ensure you child stays safe at school.
4. Take your child to get an annual check-up with your primary care physician. New classrooms mean new germs.
Photo provided by Children’s National Health System.
Linda Fu, MD, MS, is a general pediatrician at Children’s National Health System and an Associate Professor of Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Dr. Fu also serves as the Director of Outcomes and Evaluation for Children’s School Services and as the Immunization Initiatives Representative for the DC Chapter of the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Dr. Fu’s advocacy and research interests lie in immunization delivery—understanding and removing barriers to children receiving recommended vaccinations to keep them and the community at-large safe from vaccine-preventable diseases. She has current funding from the NIH to examine social influences on parental vaccination decision-making. Dr. Fu has overseen several projects to update pediatric providers in the District of Columbia and in 21 states on the implementation of immunization delivery best practices.
Many thanks to Mompreneur friends Ellen Briggs and Carolina Lima Jantac for hosting me on their radio show. If engaging teamwork in the kitchen sounds out of reach, think again. There are tons of creative ways (beyond screaming and canceling cell phone service, both of which I’ve tried unsuccessfully many times) to get the kids on board to help make meals and clean up after.
I cautioned that safety comes first, so clearly think about ages and stages before getting young kids involved, but there are tons of helpful tasks for kids of any age. A while back, I tried to capture the frustration along with a dose of inspiration, “What a Chore to Make Chores Work,” because it is truly tough to get kids excited about dishwashing soap. It’s been 40+ years since Marlo Thomas released the all-time classic, “Free to Be You And Me,” but she was spot on in her “Housework is just no fun” song. So what can we do to get the job done together and maybe have some fun along the way?
Comment on this post with your creative ideas on getting kids to help!
This week’s MomTastic Find is a personal favorite and (full disclosure) client of ours. You Are Musical just launched a very exciting production..its new website. The company specializes in early childhood music education (with options for adults too), with programs in schools, homes, the community, and more. Along the production route, I learned some fascinating stats about kids and music that I wanted to share here at The Lounge.
There’s lots more science and FUN about the magic of music on their Facebook page.
Plus, here’s a bonus for MomTini Lounge friends in the Washington, DC, and NY/NJ metro areas: Grab your FREE INTRODUCTORY LESSON ($50 value) for new students. Email info@YouAreMusical.com to book your first lesson. Mention promo code MOM2015 before November 1, 2015 to redeem.
Editor’s Note: You Are Musical is a client of Write Ideas, Inc., but the opinions expressed here are all our own!
Guest Author Corinne Jacob shared some great tips on how to keep the kids busy when you have stuff to do. She suggests a combination of engagement and diversion, both great tactics depending on what you need to do.
She shared a great quote, “Moms are always on call.” That line, from Author Susan Newman’s The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It – and Mean It – and Stop People-Pleasing Forever, definitely captures the mom’s shift (24/7). Here, Jacob shares some sage advice for supermoms around the world on how to keep the kids busy when you need to focus on something else.
A chore for a chore – that’s one of the most effective ways of keeping kids busy when you have a number of errands to run. You may be surprised to learn that kids actually love it when they are assigned household chores like arranging their books, running the vacuum cleaner, etc. This is a great way to help them develop a sense of responsibility towards their home and family.
Editor’s Note: This is my favorite, and I love getting the kids involved. I’m about to publish another article on this very topic.
Make an account of kitchen stocks
Get the kids involved in taking inventory in your kitchen. Give them a list of the items that you generally buy every month and have them give you a stock estimate so that you know what quantity of each item to buy. It will also be a good idea if the kids can write down their estimates of the quantity they think you should be buying.
Register on virtual worlds online
There are a number of safe and educational virtual worlds for kids. Virtual worlds such as Neopets can engage kids (and adults like me!) for hours on end. There’s a lot to explore and learn – discovering new lands, playing mini games, and of course, looking after your pets.
Care for pets
If you have a pet at home, then putting it to your child’s care while you’re busy finishing other chores is a good idea. Kids will grow a sense of duty towards their pet while looking after the pet’s needs and interacting with them. And all the ‘running around’ will give them the much needed exercise that they generally avoid!
Make crafts and projects
Kids are the happiest when they have a bunch of craft supplies with them! Engaging children with crafts and activities while you are busy at another important thing is a foolproof solution of keeping both the parties contended!
Corinne Jacob is a wannabe writer who is convinced that kids learn best when they’re having fun. She is constantly on the lookout for new and exciting ways to make learning an enjoyable experience. Corinne loves all things that scream out un-schooling, alternative education and holistic learning.
Kudos to Parent Encouragement Program (PEP)’s Dana Spencer, a parent educator, on her recent appearances on FOX News. Here’s a clip from “Correcting Bad Behavior: What To Do If Your Toddler Is Swearing.”
DC News FOX 5 DC WTTG
Even though our boys are teenagers, I totally remember cursing when they were younger, and my “deer in headlights” look that followed. A couple of times, I quickly moved onto the next subject, hoping it was overlooked. And we’ve also created a “family bad words jar” where we will charge for bad words. We do get sloppy, especially as our kids get older, but I’d certainly like to “keep it clean.”
Dana shared some great ideas on FOX News including…
I liked how Dana talked about consequences in a novel “PEP” way. Of course there are consequences when kids do things they shouldn’t, but she also explained the benefit of explaining to young kids how their friends might feel if they talk that way. Check out the segment.
Note: I’m a Board Member at PEP, a local non-profit parent educator, and just LOVE their programs. The Fall schedule is gearing up if you’re looking to tune up your parenting skills with a group of peers!
Math packets and summer reading are probably last on your list. After a long school year, everyone is ready for a break. But there’s loads of research that shows that a complete “brain break” isn’t always the best thing. Here’s a guest post with some tips on how to keep some momentum going during the summer months from Barbara Dianis, MA, ED, education specialist and author of Grade Transformer for the Modern Student.
Social plans may trump academic plans; however, a non-academic summer can cause students to digress two to three months in their scholastic skills. The notorious summer brain drain can cause students to struggle academically in the fall as they try to relearn several months of forgotten core concepts. Summer is an ideal time for children and teenagers to strengthen their academic skills, close learning gaps, perform better next year, and still have plenty of time leftover for sports, clubs, summer jobs or other summer activities.
The summer brain drain can be avoided in students of all ages who work on strengthening their scholastic skills several hours a week. The time can be broken into short time segments. Summertime is a fantastic time to help students be ready for a scholastically successful upcoming school year.
Summer camp is such a gift for both kids AND parents, and whether your kids are at day camp, sleep-away, or “mom camp,” there are tons of great resources for parents. I wanted to share some of my favorite camp posts that are full of ideas for staying in touch with your camper, getting more than “Hi Mom” in camp letters, sending non-food care packages since many camps prohibit ant-attracting mail, etc.
This is a unique summer for me, because I have a camper, a CILT (trainee), and a Counselor, so I’m enjoying hearing about their adventures from so many different angles.
It’s impossible to forget how nervous I was sending my kids away to camp the first time, and I told them that many years ago, I found great comfort the first night when I looked outside and realized we were all looking at the same moon, even though we were miles away. Now, watching my older boys work with younger kids, and see how much fun they have teaching and leading, it makes me realize just how special it all is to grow up at camp.
Here are some of my favorite camp posts loaded with ideas and tips – hope you’ll share with friends!
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Overbooked? Guilty here…We absolutely live a frenetic life with 3 boys, sports, activities, and oh yea, school! It all adds up to busy days that turn into busy weeks and months, and all of a sudden, no one is sure where the time went. I’m definitely against forcing kids to do things they don’t want to do for no good reason, but…I’m very much FOR letting kids stay active in sports and activities, even if it adds frenzy to our family life. It also adds afternoons watching sporting events and car rides to and from where you get to catch up. That said, this guest post, from Philip Brown, PhD, a resident expert character education at Wear The Cape, has some great ideas which even busy families may find useful. I definitely think that well-timed “pauses” are good for everyone, myself included.
Wear the Cape describes itself as a “mission-powered brand with the nerve to equate being kind with being cool.” More info on them is below this guest post.
5 Tips to Avoid Overbooking Your Kids and Find Life Balance
Dr. Brown advocates, “Saying ‘no’ when demands become more than we can handle, or to children who may feel that they are supposed to be involved with everything their friends are doing to keep up, is not easy, and can be particularly difficult if our sense of self, who we want to believe we are or should be, seems dependent on saying ‘yes’ and doing it all.”
About Wear the Cape and the kidkind foundation
Wear the Cape™ for all kidkind™ is the first global, mission-powered brand with the nerve to equate being kind with being cool. By coaching kids to be BETTER THAN THAT™, Wear the Cape breaks down barriers and brings people together—a world of new values prevails: It’s cool to be inclusive, tolerant and socially responsible. From its line of apparel and accessories, to its educational tools and its own non-profit the kidkind foundation, Wear the Cape sparks awareness and raises money to build heroes, a kid at a time. Wear the Cape’s products and resources are designed to create teachable moments between kids and the grown-ups they look up to with Hero Tags that tee up conversations about what it means to stand up and stand out; to stick up for the underdog; to do what’s right, not what’s easy. Wear the Cape donates 10% of its net profits directly to the kidkind foundation, and the rest is reinvested in the design and production of new products, as well as character-building educational materials for parents and teachers to help the kids they love. Wear the Cape’s work with communities and schools is helping mold everyday heroes that will create a kinder, better world for us all.