Entire libraries could house collections on this subject. Kids thrive on routine and structure, and while there’s no one-size-fits-all approach, there are some great shortcuts to paving the way to compliance in your home.
- Positive reinforcement is very powerful. If possible, try to mirror your home system with that of the classroom for consistency. Every family needs a structure and a set of expectations – kids thrive on routine. Try a “Family High Five” – It’s a “You can do it” message and gives you something to point to when someone is off course. It also mirrors a school classroom discipline chart. Our Family Rules (PDF) can be customized to meet your needs. Tip: Keep it simple & direct. Be explicit and specific – Telling a child to “be good” is too broad.
- When Junior really crosses the line – There are times when kids just go too far. Those are typically the times that Mom also needs a break. I like having kids go to their room and write as a form of learning and accountability. This Grounded-Questionnaire (PDF) can be customized, but gives kids an assignment after they’ve misbehaved where they explain it in writing, explain why it doesn’t fit into the family’s rules, and gives them a chance to apologize in writing, which is a start!